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Coping with Clocks Going Back
October 27, 2017

Coping with Clocks Going Back

British Summer time, Daylight Saving, Spring Forward/Fall Back…whatever you call it, the day the clocks change can put fear in to the hearts of new parents who have never had to deal with it before but don’t worry !
It is not difficult to ease your baby into the new time, and I will be explaining what needs to be done, and sharing some tips on how to do it.

This post is focusing on the autumn change where the clocks go back by an hour, and everyone gets an extra hour in bed…except parents of young children of course !

The clocks are going back so if you normally feed at 7am old time this then becomes 6am new time so you will need to push your baby forwards/delay feeds by 1 hour in order to get them on to the new 7am (if that makes sense?)
I advise parents to work on the feeds first, rather than sleeps because feeds are usually at more of a set time, and tend to form the scaffolding that routines are based around, so once you have the feeds in place at the right time, the sleeps should fall into place around them.
Parents make things more stressful than they need to be by trying to get this hour sorted all in one go and if that happens easily then great, but if not then just aim for 10-15 minutes delay for each feed throughout the day.
This achieves exactly the same result, but is more manageable with new babies/parents, and with babies with more complex needs, or with less compliant temperaments.

Tips
If you are lucky and your baby is a good sleeper, and you normally wake them for the first feed of the day your best approach is to just leave them asleep for an extra hour if possible.
This same approach can work if you have a baby that is easily pacified by using a dummy, white noise, or by cuddling, holding, or rocking them back to sleep (even if that is only a very light sleep) – just be sure that if you are holding them in bed, you are not in any danger of falling asleep yourself and dropping them.
If you can delay the feed by a whole hour at the beginning of the day then just treat the rest of the day as you would any other. You might have to do a bit of juggling with sleeps, either shortening or extending them, but try and keep feeds to the new times and baby will quickly adapt.

If you have a baby that wakes for the first feed of the day at the old time and is not great at being re-settled, or being distracted then don’t even try to push for the whole hour, just try to delay each feed through the day by 10 mins.
You can use all sorts of tricks for this such as carrying baby round the house, passing baby between parents if you have that option, using dummies, looking out of windows, singing, dancing, watching tv or listening to music.
Another good delaying tactic is to take baby out for a walk in a pram or a sling and you have the option of trying to get them to go to sleep, stay asleep longer, or be distracted by what they can see around them.

As you go through the day always keep an eye out for any opportunity to seize a few extra minutes for example if baby is asleep out on a walk and it is nearing a feed time, then if you have time, just keep walking for an extra 10 or 20 minutes.
If you have visitors and baby is happy just watching what is going on, then make the most of the distraction and delay the feed by as long as you can.
If you have a baby that sleeps well in a car, then try and incorporate a journey into the day at a strategic time and let them sleep until the next scheduled feed.
The sooner you push baby back on track, the sooner you can relax, but don’t worry if it takes all day. Once they are back on the correct feed times it usually only takes one night to get their sleep patterns to adjust.

There are no right or wrongs about this…it is just a case of you knowing your baby and using that knowledge to nudge them forward onto new feed times in a way that suits both them and you.
The worst that can happen is that you get things a bit wrong and you end up with a grumpy baby but that is ok…it happens to the best and most experienced parents and carers. Just keep going and wait for any opportunity to push baby a bit nearer the new feed times and you will get there, I promise.

The baby I will be working with when the clocks go forwards this year I happen to know very well. He is 4 months old and wakes for feeds like clockwork (its freaky !) and I know not to bother attempting any delays when he wakes for the first feed of the day because he is always starving hungry, with no sense of humour, however, he is always in a good mood after his first nap so I can distract him with play before the second feed and delay it by at least 10 minutes
He has a bath then and is always tired, and has to be woken for the third feed so I can leave him for perhaps 20 minutes extra sleep, though I might have to rock the cot a little to keep him asleep, so now I will have pushed him forwards by 30 minutes.
I also know that for his afternoon nap, just before the fourth feed he always wakes up on time and screams for his food, but, if he is out in the pram in the park when he wakes up he is happy to look around and doesn’t cry so I’m guessing I can get at least another 20 minutes before he gets impatient.
This means that by the fifth feed I will have pushed him forwards by 50 minutes which is near enough in my books, so he will be more or less back on track with the new times by late evening. I will then just treat him as I normally do and everything will have fallen in to place by the following morning.

Discussing timings like this are always difficult to put in to words but I hope this has helped to explain the process of adapting to time changes, and has given you a few ideas.
Good luck, and don’t worry…you will do just fine xx

If you have any questions please ask them in the comments below and I will do my best to answer them x

Why does my baby cry so much in the evenings ?

Some babies really struggle in the evenings, being restless, difficult to feed, crying, or even having major meltdowns…just when you are at your most tired after caring for them all day.

So you head off to Google or online mum groups and you hear terms like Evening Colic, or The Witching Hour, and that’s what we are going to look at in this blog.

Colic

Firstly, the term colic is not a diagnosis of a particular problem, it is a description of a pattern of behaviour…basically it describes a baby that cries excessively for 3 hours or more, 3 or more times a week.

As you can see, it’s a very loose description, and the excessive crying can be caused by any number of things, including hunger, tiredness, wind, reflux, illness, pain, teething, over handling, over stimulation.

It can also be a mix of several of these and its your job as a parent to try and figure out what is wrong and deal with it.

What is Evening Colic ?

This is much the same.

It describes a baby that cries excessively during the evening (usually from around 5 or 6pm through to 10 or 11pm, or even later if you are really unlucky).

It is more common in younger babies, under 5 months, but can go on much longer if the cause is not discovered.

We still have to play detective and figure out what is going on, but in this case, a major factor is usually overtiredness and/or over stimulation, along with hunger.

A baby has to cope with so many new things once they are born including learning how to latch on to bottles or teats, drink and breathe at the same time, they are feeling discomfort and pain from their own insides that they can’t understand or do anything about.

Their senses are bombarded by light, sound, movement, textures, tastes, smells, and all the interaction from people around them.

Their brains are in overdrive trying to process all this and its overwhelming and exhausting which is one of the reasons babies need so much sleep.

Naps help, but what they really need is some deep sleep so their subconscious can get on with trying to make sense of it all, so by the time evening comes they have just had enough.

They are exhausted and stressed, sometimes too stressed to eat or go to sleep so they get frustrated, and the only way they have to express themselves is by screaming

Tips to Help You Cope

Once you understand what is going on, it makes it easier for us to figure out ways to help them, such as

  • Try to make sure they get lots of sleep through the day (at least 1 hour of good solid sleep before each feed)
  • Make everything calmer in the evenings by turning down lights and music/tv, and getting rid of visitors. Sometimes the best thing is to remove baby to a dark quiet room, and use gentle music or white noise.
  • Handle them gently, rock, sway and walk around, and talk or sing to them soothingly.
  • Don’t make them wait for a feed. It won’t hurt to bring a feed forwards if it avoids baby getting wound up.
  • Make feeding as easy as possible.

**If you are breastfeeding you can try expressing or using formula from a bottle just for this feed.

**If you think your milk supply could be low (very common at this time of day) then try topping baby up with expressed milk or formula to make sure they have a full tummy.

  • Wind thoroughly but use gentle, passive positions and movements.
  • Swaddle baby so they feel secure, and you can even swaddle them to feed and during winding
  • Take turns with your partner if you have one. It is no easy thing dealing with a crying or screaming baby and can easily stress parents so being able to hand them over to someone else whilst you take a break will make a huge difference – don’t both sit there trying to calm baby, take it in turns.
  • Warm deep baths where baby can float and relax can really help. Turn lights down low, make bathroom warm, you can even get in there with baby if you think that will help. Candles are lovely if you can do it safely.
  • Make bottles a bit warmer than usual.
  • If nothing else works then try using a sling if your back is up to it.

Evening colic get better as baby gets older and they become better able to cope with the world, so if its really bad, just do the best you can to help them, and remember that it will end, it’s not forever.

Older babies can also go through temporary patches of evening colic if they are experiencing developmental changes, or if they are teething or starting nursery or during illness, just remember it is an expression of serious ‘end-of-day-itis’ so try and help them as best you can by managing them and removing all the stress factors you can think of.

I hope this has given you some insight into the problem, and some ideas about how to cope with it if you experience evening colic at any time, but if you have any questions or need more help, I’m always happy to help in my free FB group The Baby Buzz where I hang out every day…I love talking about all things baby 🙂

Sarah x

 

 

 

 

The Author

I’m Sarah Norris, a Baby Care Consultant and Parenting Coach.

I have spent over twenty five years, often working 24 hours, 6 days a week, supporting hundreds of families with new or young babies aged from newborn to 12 months old, and often helping with their toddlers and older children.

I help parents discover what parenting style they want to use to care for their baby, and offer advice on different approaches that might suit them and their circumstances best.

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